It is often said that true destiny is forged through resilience and Losh Naidoo's story proves that what is meant for you will ultimately come to you. After struggling with conception for many years, Naidoo never imagined she would one day be blessed with triplets. Written by Goodwill Thomo.
Now 46, she embraces motherhood with deep gratitude and joy. Alongside her role as a devoted mother of triplets, Naidoo balances a demanding career as a qualified occupational therapist and is married to a well-known Durban-based orthopaedic surgeon.
The reality TV star gained fame through Showmax’s reality show, The Mummy Club: Sugar and Spice, which follows Durban-based mothers from the Indian community as they navigate the challenges of motherhood while pursuing successful careers.
It is without a doubt that Naidoo has captivated viewers of the show with her authentic glimpse into her life, showcasing the strong bond she shares with her children and the highs and lows of raising triplets.
Naidoo opens up to Goodwill Thomo about her struggles with conceiving, her experiences with motherhood, her parenting style, and more.
What has your journey into motherhood been like?
It has been a rollercoaster ride. I struggled for years to conceive, and when the test came back positive, I was ecstatic. We went in for the first scan, and they told us we were having twins. We really wanted twins! But during the next scan, they said it was triplets. That’s when I started to feel anxious because I thought that was a lot to carry. Then, at the following scan, they said it was quadruplets. Sometimes, I felt guilty for not being completely overjoyed and for feeling apprehensive instead.
I miscarried one of the babies early in my pregnancy, which left me with triplets. Each day became about taking it one breath at a time. I ended up on bed rest for much of my pregnancy because it was high-risk. Eventually, I delivered at 28 weeks because one of the girls was in distress.
What kind of relationship have you built with your daughters?
I have a very close relationship with my children, and my parenting style has evolved as my girls have gotten older. When they were younger, I was the most “on-time” mom you could imagine. Since I had triplets, the routine was essential for our household to function smoothly.
If I said my kids ate at six, I meant exactly six o’clock—not a minute earlier or later. That strict schedule continued for many years. But as they grew older and became teenagers, my approach began to shift. I realised there’s a lot of value in being flexible, and I’ve learned to become more easy-going as they have too.
You were initially expecting quadruplets but lost one. How did that affect you?
It was very early on when I experienced a bit of spotting. At that point, they were just confirming there were four heartbeats, but literally the next week, there were three. I was still processing everything. To be honest, even throughout my pregnancy with three girls, I didn’t fully internalise that I was having three kids. Having lost babies in the past, I was uncertain if I would even make it to delivery or if the pregnancy would go to term. So, I didn’t really connect the pregnancy with having babies at that point, if you understand what I mean.
What strategies do you use to address the unique challenges of raising triplet daughters?
Raising triplets is truly unique. For my husband and me, it feels like we’re missing an extra set of hands—managing three can lead to chaos, especially when they are younger. However, I’m grateful that they’re all girls; their similar interests mean we don’t have fights over TV shows or activities, so things go quite smoothly.
One advantage of having triplets is that my girls always have their own friends. I need to be a mom, but when they were younger, I didn’t have to be their friend in the traditional sense. They were perfectly happy to have their own tea parties, allowing me to take a step back and just enjoy watching them. It was wonderful knowing they had their own besties for life.
What has been the most fulfilling aspect of being a parent to your daughters?
I love seeing my daughters grow into beautiful young ladies, each with their own individual strengths. When they were younger, I was excited about having triplets to a point that I dressed them all identically, with matching bows and outfits. But as they’ve grown, their distinct personalities have emerged, and I truly appreciate each of them for who they are. This stage of life is wonderful because we are more like friends than just a mom and daughters; it’s a much more relatable age.
Even though we come from a traditional Indian background, where open conversations weren’t common, I’ve tried to foster a different dynamic with my kids. I’ve always told them it’s better to come to me with anything rather than seeking advice elsewhere and potentially making a wrong decision. For example, when it comes to social media, they have accounts that I’m aware of, and they ask me before posting anything. Our close relationship allows for open discussions about their online lives, which is something I’ve seen lacking in other families where kids hide their activities from their parents. I wanted to create an environment of honesty and openness, even when the topics might be challenging.
What has surprised you more about being a mother?
I wish I had known that the challenges never really end. You might think that once they get past the sleepless nights and the difficulties of early childhood, things will become easier. While certain aspects of parenting do get easier, new challenges always arise. My daughters are now at the stage where they’re about to start driving, which brings a new set of worries. Motherhood is an ongoing journey—there’s never a point where you can say, “Okay, I’m done and comfortable.” It’s a never-ending job that just seems to come with more stress as time goes on.
Can you share any memory moment that you know encapsulates your journey as a mother?
I think my entire journey has been truly unique, and the day the girls were born stands out as a highlight for me. After a long and challenging journey, I finally had them, and we always maintained a positive outlook that everything would be okay. It was incredibly exciting to welcome triplets, but I can’t pinpoint just one moment that defines it all.
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How do you incorporate self-care into your routine while managing the responsibilities of parenting?
I advocate for mental health because I believe you can become your best self by prioritising self-care. I wake up every day and show up for myself, starting with a full face of makeup and hitting the gym at five o’clock. This routine doesn’t interfere with my family’s time—I make sure to go to bed early so I can get my workout in before everyone wakes up. I always feel better after exercising, so I take care of my body, mind, and soul to be the best version of myself for my girls. I also focus on dressing up and presenting my best self physically, which helps me feel more confident in facing any challenges that come my way.
How do you see your role as a mother changing as your daughters grow older?
I feel like we’re increasingly transitioning into a friendship rather than just a parent-child dynamic. While I’ll always have my responsibilities, it’s nice to see our relationship evolving. As they start considering career choices and the possibility of going away to study, I expect parenting will change significantly. I’ve focused on preparing my kids for independence—they can all cook and manage themselves quite well. It will be interesting to see where they decide to study and how our parenting dynamic shifts as that happens.
What lessons have you gained from your experiences as a mother, and in what ways has your outlook on life evolved since becoming a parent?
I’ve learned that there is perfection in imperfection, and that’s the most important takeaway for me. I used to view life through rose-tinted glasses, expecting everything to go perfectly. But things haven’t always gone that way, and I’ve realized that’s okay. This has been my biggest learning curve as a parent: to take things as they come and make the best of whatever situation arises.
What advice would you give to other parents who are facing the same challenges you’ve encountered in life?
I believe that God has a plan for everyone, and each journey is meant to unfold in its own time. If you’re struggling with infertility and things aren’t happening for you, remember that it’s simply not your time yet. Stay strong; your moment will come.
Every stage of parenting presents its own challenges. It’s important to treat each child as an individual and to parent them according to their unique needs. Some children require more attention, while others may need less. Try not to force them to conform to what you think is “normal,” as that can lead to more struggles for them.
I’ve had to learn this lesson myself. For that reason, I chose to homeschool my girls, which was not an easy decision. I cried over it because it meant separating them and venturing into unknown territory. But sometimes, you must step outside of your comfort zone to do what’s best for your child.
What challenges did you face before deciding to homeschool your child?
She wasn’t comfortable in a mainstream school. While the school was very supportive, it was quite large, and she struggles with anxiety and depression, so that environment wasn’t ideal for her. When we considered homeschooling, it felt like a better fit. Now she’s in a happier place, and that’s what matters most to us.
You were part of, which just wrapped up its first season. How was your experience on the show?
I really enjoyed showcasing Indian culture on the show. It’s rare to see Indian families represented in this way, especially on a show predominantly featuring Indian people. It’s been an amazing opportunity to highlight who we are, how we parent, and the richness of our culture. That has been a big positive for me.
Initially, there was a lot of discussion about nannies. When we were cast, the producers wanted to speak to our nannies and understand their role. The show highlights different parenting styles and how hands-on we are, which I think is a bit different from other cultures. It’s been nice to showcase how parenting can vary across cultures. Of course, there’s no right or wrong way, but it’s interesting to see what works in different environments.
How would you like to be remembered as a mother?
I want to be remembered as the mom they can always share everything with. I want them to think, “Oh, I can’t wait to tell Mom “Whenever something good happens. And when something bad happens, I want them to feel like, “I need to call Mom.” That’s the kind of relationship I hope to have with my kids.
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