As many mothers are celebrated with flowers, cards, and breakfast in bed this Mother’s Day, Gogo Skhotheni, real name Tumi Motsoeneng, marks the day with a heart full of both love and longing. Written by Goodwill Thomo.
The 33-year-old mother and public figure opens up to Baby YumYum about the bittersweet nature of Mother’s Day after the loss of her beloved son, Monde Junior.
Tumi’s late son was born without an oesophagus and endured multiple surgeries before sadly passing away in September 2024. In the midst of grief, she shares that her 4-year-old daughter has been a constant source of strength and purpose.
What does Mother’s Day mean to you this year, especially after the passing of your son?
This year, Mother’s Day is both beautiful and painful. It reminds me of the love I still carry for my son, even in his absence. It’s a day filled with memories, tears, and gratitude for the time I had with him.
What are some special memories you hold close from your time with your son?
His laughs, his hugs, the way he would say “Mom” when he needed comfort—those small, everyday moments are the ones I hold closest. They are etched in my heart forever.
How do you plan to honour your son’s memory Mother’s Day?
I light a candle and play his favourite songs. I spend time reflecting, sometimes writing letters to him — it’s my quiet way of staying connected and reminding myself that his spirit lives on.
How has your daughter helped you navigate grief and healing as a mother?
She has been my anchor. Her presence reminds me every day that love continues. Through her laughter and questions, I find purpose, and she gives me the strength to keep going.
What advice would you give to mothers who have experienced the loss of a child?
Take it one breath at a time. Don’t rush healing. Your grief is sacred. Talk about your child, say their name, and remember you are still a mother, and your love didn’t end.
How has motherhood changed the way you see yourself?
Motherhood has taught me how strong, yet fragile, I truly am. It showed me that my heart could break and still beat with love.
What has motherhood taught you about strength and vulnerability?
It’s taught me that strength isn’t about holding back tears, but about allowing yourself to feel them fully. Vulnerability is not weakness—it’s a powerful form of love.
What’s your proudest moment as a mother?
My proudest moment is seeing the kindness and light in my daughter’s eyes and knowing I helped nurture that. And every memory of my son is a part of that pride too.
How has your decision to follow Christianity shaped the way you see yourself as a mother?
My faith has helped me see motherhood as a divine assignment. It reminded me that even in loss, God is with me. I’m not walking this path alone.
Has your spiritual journey brought you a new perspective on parenting or healing?
Absolutely. I’ve learned to surrender control and trust that God’s plan, though painful, is purposeful. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means transforming pain into light.
What values or lessons are you most intentional about teaching your daughter now?
I teach her to love deeply, to be kind, to pray, and to never take people for granted. Life is short, but love leaves a mark that never fades.
How do you balance being a mother, a public figure, and a woman of faith in your everyday life?
It’s not always easy, but I lead with authenticity. I show up as I am guided by prayer, and I give myself grace. Balance for me means keeping God at the centre.
In closing, what is one thing you hope your child remembers about you?
I hope he remembers that I loved him with all my heart, even through pain. That I was present, prayerful, and that my love was his safe place—always.
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