Parenting is most powerful when it’s a partnership, and breastfeeding with dad shows just how much fathers can be part of the journey. Beyond feeding, dads can provide comfort, encouragement and a sense of shared responsibility. From bringing water during late-night feeds to bonding skin-to-skin with their baby, their role goes far deeper than many realise. This shared approach strengthens not only the baby’s wellbeing but the couple’s connection too.
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In the past, breastfeeding was always considered to be “mom’s job”, but many dads today would like to be a part of this wonderful bonding experience. I once read that “breastfeeding is 90% determination and 10% milk production”. While dad may not be able to help you with the 10% production, he certainly can play an integral role in helping you achieve your breastfeeding goals.
- Stand together
You may have read enough to confidently say that you will exclusively breastfeed your baby. Once you start, though, you may realise that while it was quite simple in theory, it’s not always so in practice. This could make you doubt your decision to breastfeed, leaving you vulnerable to pressure. Discuss your breastfeeding goals with your partner before your baby is born. That way, he can help you fight off nursing staff/family members who put pressure on you to supplement with formula. - Learn together
The more knowledge you both have about breastfeeding, the higher your chances are of sticking to it. Read about what to expect in the early days of breastfeeding, the challenges you may face and ways you can deal with them. When mommy brain kicks in and you can’t remember anything you read, dad can remind you. - At times, you will need a timeout
Even though you may have decided to exclusively breastfeed your baby, there will be days when you feel overwhelmed. Suddenly realising that your baby is totally dependent on you for nourishment and survival can be a scary feeling. During this time, dad can spend more time with baby (when it is not feeding time) so that you can take a break to do something else. - Stick to a feeding schedule
If you plan on putting your baby on a feeding schedule, dad can help keep you on track. When you are sleep deprived, it can become difficult to remember what you initially wanted. - Dad can help out at feeding time
While dad may not be able to help breastfeed, he can still help with fetching baby, burping and changing diapers. - Take over solids
Once your baby starts eating solids, dad can get more hands-on by taking over the feeding. You will really appreciate the break. - Dad can play “mom” for a while
If there are other kids in the home, it can be difficult for mom to be there for everyone, especially if she is breastfeeding on demand. Dad can pack lunches and help with homework. - The little things count
Even just answering the phone or the door or bringing you a snack/water while you’re feeding will be appreciated. - Go the extra mile
Dad can provide extra support by recruiting/ hiring extra help (eg, a nurse/family member/friend to help out with breastfeeding issues such as latching, inverted nipples, etc.) He can also provide other resources, such as pamphlets, articles and books that deal with common breastfeeding issues. - The weaning process
Mom is going to need more help than ever when it’s time to eventually wean her baby from breastfeeding. This is a very emotional time for both of you and you may need dad to step in and take over during this time.
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BabyYumYum FAQ’s: Breastfeeding With Dad: How Fathers Can Truly Support Moms
Can dads really play a role in breastfeeding?
Yes. While fathers cannot physically breastfeed, their emotional, practical and hands-on support is crucial for breastfeeding success and for strengthening family bonds.
How can dads support during night feeds?
Dads can help by bringing the baby to mum, changing nappies, burping the baby afterwards, and making sure mum has water or a snack nearby. This teamwork makes the process less exhausting.
What emotional support can dads provide?
Encouragement goes a long way. A dad who praises mum’s efforts, reassures her during tough days, and listens without judgement helps reduce stress and boosts confidence.
Can fathers help with expressing breast milk?
Yes. Dads can wash and sterilise pumping equipment, store expressed milk correctly, and even feed the baby with expressed breast milk. This allows mum some much-needed rest.
How can dads bond with the baby if they’re not breastfeeding?
Fathers can bond by skin-to-skin contact, bathing the baby, baby-wearing, burping after feeds or reading aloud. These moments create closeness and attachment.
What practical help is most appreciated by breastfeeding mothers?
Taking over household chores, preparing meals, handling errands, and caring for older children frees mum to focus on breastfeeding and recovery.
Does a father’s attitude impact breastfeeding success?
Yes. Studies show that when fathers are positive, informed, and supportive, mothers are more likely to start and continue breastfeeding for longer.
How can dads educate themselves about breastfeeding?
They can attend antenatal classes, read breastfeeding guides, or talk to lactation consultants alongside their partners. Being informed makes them better prepared to help.
What should dads avoid when supporting breastfeeding?
Avoid pressuring or criticising mum, comparing her to others, or dismissing her concerns. Patience and reassurance are more effective than problem-solving too quickly.
How can dads help in public breastfeeding situations?
They can provide reassurance and protection by helping find comfortable spaces, standing by their partner’s side, and showing confidence to normalise the experience.
Can fathers help if breastfeeding is challenging?
Yes. If mum struggles with pain, latching issues, or low supply, dads can support by seeking professional help, offering comfort and staying calm while solutions are found.
Why is breastfeeding support from dads important in South Africa?
In South Africa, where work stress and social stigma around breastfeeding in public still exist, fathers who stand firmly in support play a vital role in breaking stigma and encouraging healthier feeding choices for their children.
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Disclaimer: This information is for general parenting support and should not replace advice from a healthcare professional or lactation consultant. If you or your partner experience challenges with breastfeeding, seek professional guidance.
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