‘RHOD’ Star Nonku on Modern Motherhood and Teaching Boys Respect

Nonku Williams, known for her unapologetic presence on The Real Housewives of Durban (RHOD), isn’t just reality TV gold; she’s a powerhouse mother who is navigating fame, her spiritual calling, and her thriving business in the male-dominated construction industry.

A single mother of three, Nonku’s eldest child is a daughter from her previous relationship with late gospel legend, Sifiso Ncwane, while her two sons are from her marriage to her ex-husband.

As South Africa continues to commemorate Women’s Month, she reflects on the values she instils in her children, sharing what it means to raise sons who respect women and a daughter who embraces her self-worth with confidence. Guided by grace, grit, and faith, the businesswoman says she is redefining what modern motherhood means.

During her chat with Goodwill Thomo, the RHOD alum opens up about the strength it takes to lead a household, nurture emotional intelligence, and raise the next generation with love and purpose. She further shares how motherhood, which she believes is guided by her Christian faith, has shaped her identity.

How has motherhood shaped the woman you are today?

Motherhood has taught me patience, selflessness, and unconditional love. My faith in Jesus Christ has been a guiding light, helping me navigate the challenges of single parenthood.

As a mother to two sons and a daughter, how do you approach parenting them differently, if at all?

I tailor my approach to each child’s unique needs and personality. With my daughter, I focus on empowering her independence and confidence. With my sons, I emphasise respect, empathy, and kindness towards women.

What does Women’s Month mean to you as a mother raising both boys and a girl in South Africa?

Women’s Month is a reminder of the importance of promoting gender equality and empowering women. As a mother, I strive to instil these values in my children, teaching them to respect and value women.

What’s one lesson you hope your daughter learns from you about being a strong, independent woman?

I hope my daughter learns to believe in herself, trust her instincts, and never settle for anything less than she deserves.

How do you raise your sons to respect and value women?

I teach my sons to treat women with kindness, respect, and empathy. I encourage them to challenge toxic masculinity and promote healthy relationships.

What values or traditions from your upbringing have you passed down to your children?

Growing up in a Christian home had a profound impact on my life, and I’ve carried those values forward to my children. Teaching them about God and making Jesus Christ a foundation of our family is essential to me.

What’s one thing your children have taught you about yourself as a woman?

My children have taught me to be more patient, flexible, and present in the moment.

What has been the most rewarding part of raising your children as a single mother in the public eye?

The most rewarding part is seeing my children thrive and grow into compassionate, confident individuals despite the challenges we face.

What’s your go-to “mom hack” that saves the day every time?

My go-to hack is having a well-stocked emergency bag with essentials like snacks, band-aids, and extra clothes.

What’s a funny or unforgettable “mom moment” that still makes you laugh?

One moment that still cracks me up is when I told my dog, Milo, to get out of the house while we were sitting by the pool. My then 5-year-old son pointed out, “But Mom, Milo is already outside!” It was such a simple yet hilarious moment that I’ve cherished ever since.

If your kids had to describe you in three words, what do you think they’d say?

They might say “loving,” “funny,” and “strong.”

What advice would you give to other moms who are trying to raise confident, emotionally intelligent children?

I’d advise them to prioritise emotional validation, active listening, and self-care. Encourage your children to express themselves and model healthy emotional regulation.