Life as a mother can often feel like a whirlwind, with countless responsibilities and demands pulling you in all directions. Amidst the chaos, it's easy to lose touch with the present moment and miss out on the precious moments with your children. But those little moments with your children? They’re the ones that matter most. Read on for valuable tips to help moms stay present and connected with your little ones, even when life feels overwhelming. By Olivia Wallis, Life Coach.
- Embrace the power of recognition
As a mother, you’re constantly juggling multiple tasks and emotions. Recognising when you’ve been swept away by the storm of motherhood is the first step towards regaining your connection to the present. Take a moment to acknowledge when you’re feeling overwhelmed and remember that it’s okay to ask for help. - Approach your Emotions with gentleness
Motherhood is filled with a wide range of emotions, from joy and love to frustration and exhaustion. It’s essential to approach your emotions with tenderness. Allow yourself to feel whatever you’re experiencing without judgment. This act of self-compassion not only helps you but also sets a positive example for your children to know that it’s OK to feel their feelings, both positive and negative. - Reconnect with the body
Your body is a source of strength and resilience. When you find yourself caught up in a whirlwind of thoughts and tasks, take a moment to connect with your body and your child’s. Hug your child, feel their warmth and presence, and savor these precious moments. This physical connection can ground you in the here and now. - Breathe and reconnect with your child’s world
Breathing is a powerful tool to bring you back to the present. Take a deep breath and focus on your child. What can you see, hear, and feel in their world? Engaging with your child’s surroundings and experiences can help you create meaningful connections and cherish the present moment together. - Nourish your inner selves
Ask yourself, “What do I and my child need right now?” Your well-being is closely linked to your child’s happiness. Listen to your heart and your child’s needs with compassion. Whether it’s quality time, a comforting hug, or a simple conversation, attending to these needs strengthens your bond and keeps you both present.
Navigating motherhood is a gift you give yourself and your children. By practicing self-compassion and connection, you can weather the storms of parenthood with grace and create lasting memories filled with happiness and fulfillment.
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BabyYumYum FAQs: Tips to Help Moms Stay Present
How can I be more present with my children in a busy day?
Start by creating small, intentional moments during your day—put your phone aside, make eye contact, and fully engage during routine activities like mealtimes, bath time or bedtime chats.
I feel overwhelmed—how do I slow down mentally?
Practise short breathing exercises or mindfulness for even 2–3 minutes at a time. Taking deep breaths, grounding yourself with your senses, or stepping outside can help calm a racing mind.
Does multitasking affect how present I am?
Yes. While it may feel efficient, multitasking often splits your attention. Try focusing on one thing at a time—especially when interacting with your children—to build stronger connections and reduce stress.
What are some ways to reduce distractions during family time?
Turn off notifications, set ‘phone-free’ times, and create routines that encourage undivided attention. Let your children know when you’re available and when you’re not—but keep those boundaries consistent.
Can mindfulness help with parenting?
Absolutely. Mindfulness can improve your emotional regulation, patience and ability to handle tantrums or stress. Even a simple pause before reacting can make a difference.
How can I reconnect with my child after a tough day?
Physical touch (like a hug), sharing a story, or asking a gentle question like “What was the best part of your day?” can help repair connection and make your child feel seen and safe.
I’m constantly exhausted. Is it normal to feel disconnected?
Yes, especially for mums juggling work, home, and emotional loads. Feeling distant can be a sign that you need to recharge. Don’t feel guilty—ask for help and prioritise your rest too.
How can I stay emotionally present during repetitive tasks?
Try turning daily routines into bonding rituals. Use song during nappy changes, talk about the day during dinner, or cuddle during story time. These small moments add up.
What should I do if I feel guilty for not being present enough?
Guilt is common, but perfection isn’t the goal. Acknowledge how you feel, then take one small step to reconnect. Presence is built over time, not achieved in one perfect day.
Disclaimer: These FAQs are for informational purposes only and not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Please speak to a qualified counsellor or GP if you’re feeling overwhelmed or persistently disconnected.
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