Solo parenting: navigating the challenges can feel like an uphill climb, especially when the emotional, financial, and practical load is all on you. But being a solo parent also builds grit, patience, and resilience in ways you never imagined. It’s not easy—but it’s not impossible either. If you’re in this season of life, know this: you’re not alone, and you’re doing better than you think. By Tshepy Matloga-Malope
Being a parent often comes with multiple challenges, but when you are a solo parent everything comes twice as hard. Single mothers often face financial strain, emotional distress, and physical exhaustion while raising children. We hear from single mothers who successfully confronted and overcame these obstacles
Emotional challenges
The emotional toll of single parenting can be immense. Single moms often face feelings of loneliness, stress, and guilt as they’re solely responsible for providing emotional support to their children. Balancing work, household responsibilities, and parenting can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed.
Beulah, a single mother of two, says self-care is a vital part of parenting although it is quite overlooked. It took her some time to realise that she needed to prioritise her wellbeing and is fortunate enough to work at a company that provides employee wellness services like therapy, which she uses to manage her emotions. She explains, “The biggest self-care effort, though, was finding a helper, as this allows me to take time off from my kids, and I rarely have to worry about cooking and cleaning. Also, just utilising help from family and friends. I also do things that make me happy, like reading books, going hiking, and attending events.”
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Financial challenges
Financial problems are common for single mothers, as they are solely responsible for taking care of their family’s financial needs. Without extra income, it can be difficult to take care of children and maintain a stable household. Budgeting, finding affordable childcare, and securing proper employment are key.
Bella, a single mother of two, says that apart from her full-time job, she has resorted to side hustles to supplement her income. “I’ve had to make some adjustments, learn to budget, and cut on things I feel are unnecessary while doing double duty–my everyday job and side hustles.”
Morongoe, a single mother of 1, also stressed the importance of preparing for rainy days, stating that as a single mother, you must financially prepare for the present and the future. “I have life insurance; my workplace also provides for life benefits, so if I die, I know that his school will be taken care of until university. Over and above the fact that his schooling will be taken care of, I have general insurance but also have things like income protection, dread disease coverage, etc. So whether I’m here or not, I’m making means to make sure that his future is taken care of,” she says. 
Physical challenges
Single mothers often find themselves overwhelmed with demanding physical responsibilities. The need to juggle household chores and children’s needs can lead to exhaustion and burnout.
Mokgadi, a single mother of three, highlighted the importance of setting realistic expectations and admitting that she can’t be everywhere at all times. With one child in high school and two in primary school, she’s found it daunting to be there for everyone, especially during school meetings and extracurricular activities.
“Sometimes I feel like if their fathers were around, I wouldn’t be going through half the things I’m going through, especially with chores, homework, and dropping and picking them up from school on weekends when they have extracurricular activities. To keep my body fit, I go to the gym and eat a balanced diet. I also take my time at the gym as a me time,” she says.
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Overcoming obstacles
While the challenges of single parenting can be tough, many single mothers find ways to overcome them and provide their children with nurturing environments.
Rose, a single mom of one, emphasised the importance of a strong support system both within and outside the family: “This journey has taught me that it is okay to ask for help; you cannot always be a superhuman who gets everything done. I have also forged friendships with other single moms, and we offer each other support.”
Single parenting presents so many challenges encompassing financial, emotional, and physical aspects. However, by creating a solid financial plan, seeking emotional support, and ensuring self-care, the load can lessen.
Some of the single moms have also found solace in leveraging technology and online communities for advice and resources. Online platforms and social media groups have become valuable sources of information and emotional support. Through support networks, community resources, and personal development, single mothers can navigate the ups and downs providing a nurturing environment for their children.
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What is solo parenting?
Solo parenting refers to raising a child or children without the consistent involvement or support of a co-parent, whether due to choice, separation, death, or absence. Yes, it’s completely normal. Managing everything alone—emotions, finances, routines—can be exhausting. It’s important to recognise your limits and seek support where you can. Prioritise tasks, ask for help, and build a support system of friends, family, or community groups. Remember that good enough is often more than enough. Take short breaks when possible, practise self-care (even in small ways), and talk to someone you trust. Joining a solo parenting support group can also help ease emotional stress. These feelings are common but not a reflection of your worth. Acknowledge them without judgement and remind yourself that you’re doing your best with what you have. Absolutely. Children thrive in environments where they feel loved, safe, and supported. Your presence, stability, and attention matter more than a traditional family setup. Planning and routine can help. Don’t be afraid to simplify your schedule or let go of non-essential tasks. Where possible, explore flexible work arrangements or childcare assistance. Connect with local parenting groups, school networks, or community centres. Online communities for solo parents can also provide emotional support and practical advice. Simple things like shared meals, story time, and one-on-one chats can become meaningful traditions. You don’t need grand gestures—connection matters most. Many solo parents face financial stress. Speak to a financial advisor, explore government support options, and look into budgeting tools or community assistance programmes. Take a look at 10 tips for coping with financial stress. Be honest in an age-appropriate way. Reassure your child that they are deeply loved and that families come in many shapes and sizes—all equally special. Disclaimer: This content is intended for general support and guidance. For specific concerns relating to parenting, mental health, or financial wellbeing, please consult a qualified professional or support service.Is it normal to feel overwhelmed as a solo parent?
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This news helps a lot because im also a solo parent and going through a lot alone. Im so happy beacuse thise news gives me strength to work hard on my kids.