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Expert Natural ways to induce labour

by Tamryn Schmahl, doula and HypnoBirthing® childbirth educator August 26, 2025
written by Tamryn Schmahl, doula and HypnoBirthing® childbirth educator
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As your due date approaches, you may be wondering about natural ways to induce labour. Whether you’re past your due date or simply eager to meet your baby, there are gentle and safe methods to encourage labour. From light exercises to dietary tweaks, these tips can help your body prepare naturally. It’s important to consult your healthcare provider before trying any of these techniques to ensure they’re safe for you and your baby. Let’s explore some effective, natural methods to help kickstart your labour journey. Written by Tamryn Schmahl, doula and HypnoBirthing® childbirth educator.

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As it stands, the labour process and how and when it starts is still a mystery of nature. The latest research points to an intricate dance of hormones, including prostaglandins and oxytocin, which is initiated by the baby when their lungs and brain are mature and they are ready for life outside of the womb.

It thus stands to reason that it’s probably best to patiently wait it out until baby gets things going, but sometimes things happen (or don’t happen!) and you would like to try and give the labour process a little kickstart – this is called inducing labour!

It could be that an induction will soon be medically indicated, or you could just be getting tired of pregnancy (those last few weeks can feel like months!) and baby doesn’t seem to have gotten the eviction notice.

Should you try to induce labour at home?

The answer to this depends greatly on your individual circumstances. Remember that any form of induction (even using natural methods) is still an induction and an intervention, so always check in with your care provider first to find out if you should be trying any form of labour induction method.

When is it safe to induce labour naturally?

Your baby is considered ‘early term’ from only 37 weeks of gestation, so it’s not recommended to try inducing labour before then. We also see from the latest research that baby’s lungs and brain undergo exponential growth and development during the last few weeks of pregnancy, so it may not be a good idea to try inducing naturally until baby is at least term, which is around 39–40 weeks – unless given the go-ahead from your care provider under special circumstances.

Many of the methods we’ll cover below won’t really work unless your baby and body are on the brink of spontaneous labour anyway, but it is best to avoid introducing any unnecessary risk that would come along with trying to induce early, for example at 35 weeks. When babies are born prematurely (before 37 weeks) there is a strong chance that they will need extra care, for example in the neonatal ICU, so it is best to leave well enough alone until a later point in your pregnancy.

Natural ways to induce labour

Eating date palm fruit (Phoenix dactylifera plant)

Does it work? This is a natural labour induction method that is supported by some evidence

Dates are very nutritious, and it’s believed that their nutritional and biochemical properties are effective in shortening pregnancy and improving labour and birth outcomes. Recent studies show that eating about 70–100 grams of pitted dates (so about 3–4 medjool dates or 6–10 smaller dates) daily from 36 weeks of pregnancy helps ripen (soften and open) the cervix, reduce the duration of pregnancy, and shorten the duration of labour.

As the studies did not apply to pregnant people with diabetes or gestational diabetes, please check in with your healthcare provider before consuming dates if you have concerns about blood sugar levels.

Nipple stimulation

Does it work? There is evidence that this is an effective way to induce childbirth naturally, but should only be used under the direct guidance of your healthcare provider

Breast and nipple stimulation has been used all over the world as a way of inducing and augmenting labour. Research has shown that nipple and breast stimulation increases cervical ripeness, improves the likelihood of going into labour sooner, reduces postpartum haemorrhaging, and reduces the likelihood of needing a caesarean birth. This is a result of oxytocin being released. nipple stimulation to induce labour

However, this is also where some risk comes in. There is no way of controlling the amount of oxytocin being released during the stimulation, and the stimulation can lead to excessively frequent uterine stimulations and foetal heart rate decelerations. Because of this, it is best to speak with your healthcare provider before attempting breast/nipple stimulation as an induction method.

Pregnant mothers who are breastfeeding an older baby or toddler may be concerned about the risk of breastfeeding leading to pre-term labour, but from the studies we have, this is not seen to be an issue. The authors of the studies believe that all of the oxytocin receptors need to be fully present in the uterus before nipple stimulation may induce labour, and this usually only happens later on in pregnancy.

Blue cohosh (Caulophyllum thalictroides) and black cohosh (Actaea racemosa or Cimicifuga racemosa)

Does it work? This induction method lacks sufficient evidence or safety data

Black and blue cohosh have been used traditionally to induce labour and abortion and reduce labour pain. Due to a lack of evidence on safety (and some concerning case reports!), though, it is unknown whether or not it is safe to consume these herbs during pregnancy (especially early pregnancy), and they are best avoided.

Sex

Does it work? This is a natural labour induction method that is supported by some evidence

You may have heard it said before: “What gets the baby in, gets the baby out.” Let’s take a look at how and why sex may be a natural induction method, and when it’s not recommended. Firstly, human semen contains prostaglandins, which we know play an important role in ripening the cervix and starting labour. Secondly, oxytocin is released when you orgasm (your uterus actually contracts, which can also be a mechanical kickstart to labour contractions) and when your clitoris and/or nipples are stimulated.

Sex is generally considered safe for most pregnancies, some of the only exceptions being when you have a low-lying placenta, are at risk for pre-term labour, or your waters have broken.

Evening primrose oil

Does it work? There is evidence that this is an effective way to induce childbirth naturally, but should only be used under the direct guidance of your healthcare provider

Gamma linolenic acid, which is a precursor to prostaglandins E1 and E2, is thought to be the active ingredient in evening primrose oil. These prostaglandins ripen the cervix, thereby preparing it for labour. The latest evidence showed that inserting 1000mg of evening primrose oil vaginally from 38 weeks of pregnancy significantly increased the average study participant’s Bishop’s score (level of cervical ripening) and shortened the length of their early labour.

Fewer caesarean births also occurred in the group who used evening primrose oil. No side effects were reported. Because all study participants were healthy with no pregnancy complications, and the evidence that has come out is quite new, it is recommended to first speak with your healthcare provider before using evening primrose oil.

Spicy food

Does it work? This is worth a try but there’s a lack of sufficient evidence to prove it works

Eating spicy food like curry can irritate your gastrointestinal tract, which leads to an irritated uterus and possible contractions. If you are on the brink of labour already, that curry may just tip you over the edge – but there is no hard evidence supporting the use of spicy food for labour induction. Natural ways to induce labour - babyyumyum

Acupressure, shiatsu, and acupuncture

Does it work? This is a natural labour induction method that is supported by some evidence

Acupressure and shiatsu are techniques that use the application of manual pressure to certain points on the body. Research looking at acupressure for labour initiation doesn’t show much benefit; however, there was one study carried out that looked at the effect of acupressure (applied to spleen six, the pressure point on the inside of the leg above the ankle for 20 minutes per day) on cervical ripening, and they found that the participants’ Bishop’s scores (level of cervical ripening) increased significantly.

There were also a couple of low-quality studies done on using shiatsu (applied to gallbladder 21, large intestine four, and spleen six), and they found lower rates of artificial oxytocin use in the study groups. Looking at acupuncture, which involves fine needles being inserted into specific acupuncture points, two studies found an increase in cervical ripeness when the technique was performed by a trained professional. So, overall, these techniques probably won’t induce labour, per se, but may ripen the cervix.

Pineapple

Does it work? This is worth a try but there’s a lack of sufficient evidence to prove it works

Pineapple contains an enzyme called bromelain that is thought to help ripen the cervix. Pineapple has been used to terminate pregnancies and induce labour in many cultures throughout the world, including Fiji, the Philippines, Indonesia, Malaysia, India, and Trinidad. Little research on pineapple for induction of labour has been conducted in humans.

In animal studies, and when applied directly to uterine tissue from humans, pineapple juice caused contractions, but this same effect was not seen when it was consumed orally. We therefore don’t have much evidence to support eating pineapples or drinking pineapple juice to induce labour, but unless the pregnant parent has diabetes or the pineapple gives her a sore mouth, it is likely not harmful, either.

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Exercise or walking

Does it work? This is worth a try but there’s a lack of sufficient evidence to prove that exercise or walking works as a natural way to induce labour

Gravity is your friend! You may have heard that climbing stairs, walking, washing the floors on hands and knees, and bouncing on a birth ball can help kickstart labour. Indeed, gravity can help by nudging baby deeper into the pelvis, and the increased pressure on your cervix may aid in opening it up. This can help initiate labour or ramp things up if you’re already in active labour. To date, though, no actual studies have been carried out on the effects of exercising to induce labour.

How can you prepare your body for labour or bring on labour sooner? 

Castor oil (Oleum Palma Christi)

Does it work? There is evidence that this is an effective way to induce childbirth naturally, but should only be used under the direct guidance of your healthcare provider

From studies that have been done and anecdotal evidence amongst healthcare providers, it appears that castor oil ripens the cervix and stimulates uterine contractions, especially in pregnancies that go beyond 40 weeks. This effect is more pronounced in mothers who have had previous vaginal births. Reported side effects include nausea and diarrhoea. Because of the wide range of dosages and possible side effects, it is recommended that pregnant parents ask for guidance from their healthcare provider before consuming any amount of castor oil to induce labour.

Red raspberry leaf (Rubus idaeus)

Does it work? This induction method lacks sufficient evidence or safety data

Red raspberry leaf contains fragarine compounds that are thought to help tone and tighten the muscles of the uterus and shorten labour. Due to a lack of evidence on efficacy and safety, though, it is not known whether or not it is safe to consume red raspberry leaf tea or extract during pregnancy, and it is best to speak with your healthcare provider before trying it out.

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How can you prepare your body for labour or bring on labour sooner?

Certain toning techniques, including perineal massage and pelvic floor exercises, can be useful in preparing the body for labour. Although they won’t initiate labour, they can make the labour process more efficient.

Finally, if you have run out of options and baby needs to make their appearance sooner rather than later, for whatever reason, you can ask your healthcare provider about massaging your cervix or stripping your membranes – also known as a stretch and sweep.

The procedure causes the body to release hormones such as prostaglandins (thereby softening the cervix) and, occasionally, oxytocin. The method can be quite uncomfortable, and it carries a small risk of accidentally breaking your waters, but it has been shown to reduce the need for chemical induction for post-term pregnancy.

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Perineal Tears & Consequences
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Expert Perineal Tears and Consequences

by Dr Shareefa Rahim, Gynaecologist and Obstetrician October 11, 2024
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“Perineal” relates to anything affecting the perineum, the region between the vaginal opening and the anus for women. For a successful vaginal birth, vaginal and cervical expansion should occur slowly and the tissue should be allowed to stretch in a proper manner.

At this time, spontaneous tears may occur in rapid foetal head descent and formation of vaginal dilatation. These tears are divided into 4 degrees; most frequent one involves just the lining of the vagina and perineum (1st degree), they may extend to the vaginal muscles (2nd degree), anal sphincter complex (3rd degree) and rectum (4th degree). According to the Royal College of Obstetrician & Gynaecologists, third- or fourth- degree tears, also known as an obstetric anal sphincter injury (OASI), can occur in 6 out of 100 births for the first-time mothers and less than 2 in 100 for women who have had a vaginal birth before.

Another reason for perineal tears at birth is a controlled and properly executed episiotomy. An episiotomy is a surgical procedure where a small incision is made in the area between the vagina and anus (perineum), thereby facilitating the birth of the baby. These two main types of episiotomies are commonly practiced; Midline (from the posterior fourchette to the anus) and Mediolateral (from the hymenal ring downwards with at least a 45-degree angle). An episiotomy is performed for various reasons. A few of these may include:

  • The infant needs to be delivered without delay, as in these instances:
    • Foetal Distress during 2nd stage of labour
    • Maternal Exhaustion
    • Maternal cardiac disease
  • The delivery of a preterm infant (to reduce pressure on the foetal head)
  • There is high risk of a 3rd degree tear, or when such a tear has previously occurred.

Perineal tears during childbirth, especially third- and fourth- degree tears can cause annoying complications such as urinary or faecal/flatus incontinence and sexual discomfort.  Let us further discuss the consequences.

The effects on intimacy

According to multiple studies, a significant impact has been observed in all aspects of intimate life, such as dyspareunia (painful intercourse), lack of vaginal lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, vaginal bleeding or irritation after sex and loss of sexual desire.

During sexual intercourse, women rarely felt incapable of having orgasm, but they were dissatisfied with the reduced variety of sexual activities and usually felt some pain. Furthermore, their orgasms after childbirth were mostly less intense, compared to those they had before pregnancy.

Also, the amount of time prior to the initiation of an active sex life, and the regaining of reproductive health must be considered with respect to perineal tears. In general, dyspareunia is more common in patients with perineal lacerations, especially because of an episiotomy. This results in a delay coital resumption after delivery.

Due to intact perineum, patients who have had a caesarean section have an early active sex life and higher amount of intercourse than patients who have had a vaginal delivery with vaginal tear.

Faecal/Flatus Incontinence

Faecal and flatus incontinence can be either Frequency (feeling the need to use the bathroom too often) or Urgency (difficulty in holding the stool or wind when the need arises).

Faecal Incontinence tends to be commoner among women with median episiotomy than among those who gave birth vaginally with a first- or- second degree tear. The latter has a risk of faecal incontinence like women with an intact perineum. Women with incontinence of stool are more likely to also have involuntary escape of wind.

At three months post-partum, many women have better control of stool but have difficulty to hold their wind. Anal sphincter competence remains the biggest concern as Flatus incontinence can be present even 10 years after OASI. Although, faecal incontinence has a more devastating effect on quality of life than does incontinence of flatus, women with daily escape of wind have an awkward and embarrassing condition. Multiple studies have found that the lack of control over stool and wind lead to long term psychological trauma and social isolation in some women. 

Care must be taken to address post-partum problems such as painful intercourse, faecal/urinary/flatus incontinence in all women regardless, of the degree of perineal tear. Perineal trauma can have long term effects on a woman’s life and wellbeing. Some women who experience severe perineal tears suffer long term psychological trauma and social isolation. They may be embarrassed by their symptoms and therefore find it hard to discuss with their health care providers.

Ladies, do not be embarrassed about talking to a healthcare professional if you have these symptoms as support and treatment is available for you.

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Five ways to prepare for life postpartum
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Five ways to prepare for life postpartum

by Sponsored February 15, 2023
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It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of having your baby, devising your birth plan and stocking up on everything your baby will need when they come home. But sometimes new moms don’t consider what they’ll need to thrive after the birth of their child, commonly known as postpartum.

“While it’s important to take great care of your new baby, you must also take care of yourself,” says Dr Khungelwa Mrwebi, Regional Clinical Manager – Border Kei, Life Healthcare. “We know the importance of having moms prepare for the journey waiting for them at home after giving birth to their little one. Relevant education around postpartum care for new moms may not always be easily accessible. We’ve sought to address this through the publication of the Little Life Newborn Guide that we include in our hospital maternity packs. New moms can also find the right information for postpartum care by speaking to their birthing medical teams and local antenatal and postnatal groups and other credible maternity services and platforms.”

“Falling pregnant and having your baby are just the first steps towards a whole new reality,” adds registered nurse (RN) Susan Bolke, Unit Manager and Midwife at Life St George’s Hospital. “The real change happens when you bring your baby home. That’s when you’ll need to learn how to look after your newborn and yourself in a whole new way.”

To help new moms prepare for life postpartum, Dr Mrwebi and RN Susan suggest…

1. Prioritising your rest

Giving birth is a major, life-changing experience. You need time to recover both mentally and physically. Rest is one of the best ways to do just that – and getting enough sleep can be challenging.

“But remember, rest doesn’t just mean sleep, it’s also taking the time to relax and connect with your new baby,” says Dr Mrwebi. “That comes by reducing the number of stressors in your daily life and accepting help.”

Make sure to really take that time off work, have someone you trust take care of your other children or fur-babies, and most importantly, don’t feel guilty for giving yourself the time and the space to recover. Although you may feel that it is your responsibility to take on most of the responsibilities at home and with your new baby, you should prioritise rest to prevent burnout and overwhelm that may negatively impact on your bonding experience with your baby. Here are a few ways to ensure rest after baby arrives:
• Precooked meals or meal prepping can save you time, especially when you are adjusting to your new routine.
• Make an appointment with a friend or family member for a visit or get out of the house at least once a week. A change of scenery can benefit both you and your baby.
• Get fresh air. Drinking a cup of tea outside or taking a walk can help you unwind.

2. Being honest about your mental health

Bringing a new baby home can be an emotionally taxing process. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed, stressed or anxious. But if you don’t feel like yourself, or how you hoped you’d feel after having a baby, don’t push those emotions aside. There are many factors that influence your mental capacity during this time which could include your changing hormones, lack of sleep or more serious conditions such as baby blues.

“It’s crucial to be honest with yourself when it comes to your mental health,” says RN Susan. “Post-partum depression and anxiety are very common after birth and may happen with subsequent births. . So, look out for signs of insomnia, loss of appetite, increased irritability or difficulty bonding with your baby.”

Your doctor or midwife are equipped to help you heal mentally as much as they’re assisting physically, and they won’t judge you if you are having low days and struggling to adapt after the birth. They might recommend therapy or prescribe a short course of medication to help you with the transition.

3. Giving yourself time to heal physically

Aside from your new baby, one of the biggest reminders that you’ve given birth is the physical recovery. Moms that opt for natural birth might suffer from a perineal wound, although the extent of this tear or cut can vary. While moms that go the c-section route will have an abdominal wound, requiring wound care and avoiding strenuous activity to heal. Although you may be tempted to exercise soon after birth you should follow your clinicians advise as you may be at a greater risk for injuries. Use this time to give your body time to recover from not only the birthing experience but pregnancy too.

Wound care after birth
It’s crucial that you make looking after this wound part of your postpartum care. Follow your clinicians’ wound care instructions and try to keep the wound area clean and dry.

When you bath, shower, or use the toilet (in the case of a natural birth), make sure to rinse the wound with a warm saltwater solution. You can simply squirt the water onto the affected area and then pat dry. Make sure there’s no additional moisture on the area when you dress it.

Signs of possible complications and infection
As with most surgical wounds there is a risk of infection – even if you’re doing everything to protect the area. Don’t ignore the signs of an infection, it could have serious, even fatal consequences.

If you suddenly develop a fever, shivers, discharge, redness, unusual swelling and unilateral pain down one leg, these are all signs that something could be wrong, and you should contact your doctor or midwife immediately.

“Remember, pain and fever are important signals from your body that you should be on the lookout for,” reveals Dr Mrwebi. “Pain is a normal part of the recovery process, your doctor should prescribe some medication to make it manageable. On the other hand, fever is not normal and needs to be addressed immediately.”

Maternity pads
The comfiest and most convenient way to protect a perineal wound is with a maternity pad. They have been specifically designed to offer the most protection as well as the least chance of infection. Tampons and menstrual cups are not an ideal solution for bleeding postpartum.

Exercise
“While resting is key to your recovery, it’s also good to get your blood flowing as you progress through your recovery process,” says RN Susan. “To do that, try going for a short, slow walk around your house or garden once a day. This is enough to promote good circulation and reduce your risk of blood clots.”

Do not lift heavy objects, walk up flights of stairs or do physically strenuous tasks that could put unnecessary pressure on your wound or cause ligament injuries related to hormonal changes during the pregnancy and the postpartum period.

4. Caring for your breasts

As your body recovers from childbirth and enters the postpartum phase, your breasts will begin producing milk so that you can breast feed. The World Health Organization recommends that babies are breast fed exclusively for the first six months, however some moms may not be able to breast feed for various reasons. Some moms may choose to breast feed.

For moms to be able to breastfeed, it’s important that you have a safe and comfortable space in your home where you can do this. Ideally, use a comfortable chair or couch that offers support – a feeding pillow can help a great deal too.

When it comes to infant feeding, the more your baby drinks from you the more your milk production will be stimulated. It’s best to feed your baby on demand and to alternate between breasts to prevent engorgement.

Some helpful tips:
• A warm compress can help the let-down of milk and help to soothe sore breast.
• Wash your breasts with soap and water and only apply breastfeeding-friendly nipple cream.
• Most mothers have sore, cracked nipples which could also bleed after continuous feeding. For most mothers this will soon pass but nipple shields can help you to continue feeding when your nipples are inflamed.

Do not hesitate to speak to your midwife or lactation consultant about persistent pain – sometimes small challenges such as latching or positioning can make all the difference to your breastfeeding journey.

5. Asking for help

As you adjust to this new life with your baby, you’ll be able to better gauge where you need help. You don’t have to go through this on your own. A support system, whether it be your partner, your family, your friends, or even your healthcare providers, is so important.

“Having a baby is one of the most incredible experiences, so enjoy it,” says Dr Mrwebi. “Never forget that we as clinicians have your back. We want to see you thrive and we’re here to help you with whatever you need along the way.”

Your support system will be there to guide you, comfort you and even provide for you, if you communicate your desire for help. It takes a village to raise a child, and postpartum is the best time to really nail down your relationships with that village.

“We’ve seen so many new moms go through this. There’s no right or wrong way to care for your baby, if you’re also making the time to care for yourself,” adds RN Susan. “Trust yourself, and trust your gut. You’ve got this, Mom!”

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Your Most Embarrassing Birth Questions - Answered
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Expert Your Most Embarrassing Birth Questions – Answered

by Dr Jireh Serfontein, Medical Doctor working exclusively in the field of sexual medicine March 11, 2020
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Let’s face it—labour isn’t always graceful, and it’s completely normal to have questions you’re too shy to ask. This post is all about your most embarrassing birth questions answered… because if you’re wondering about it, chances are someone else is too. From pooping on the table to what happens if you fart mid-push—we’re covering it all, honestly and without judgement. Birth is raw, real and human, and that’s exactly how we’re going to talk about it. Written by Dr Jireh Serfontein, sexual health practitioner.

“Am I going to poop during labour?” is one of the most common – and uncomfortable! – questions expecting moms ask their gynaes. Other most-asked embarrassing birth questions include, “will everyone see my vagina when I give birth?”, “Should I have a bikini wax before I give birth?” and “How soon after giving birth can I start have sex again?”

We asked sexual health expert Dr Jireh Serfontein (who’s not afraid to answer anything), all your awkward birth question. Take note… here they are!

Q. Can I breastfeed if I’ve had a boob augmentation or reduction, or pierced my nipples?

With breast reduction surgery some of the glandular tissue that produces the milk is removed. The milk ducts and nerves are also cut, which can potentially influence the let-down reflex. Fortunately, there are newer techniques that can protect the breast tissue that is needed to successfully breastfeed. Breast milk is produced on a supply-versus-demand basis. The more stimulation there is, the more milk will be produced. The key then is to get off to a good start by feeding on demand.

While any form of breast surgery can cause damage to the nerves or ducts, most women with implants can breastfeed. The implants are mostly inserted behind the pectoralis muscle, which means that the breast tissue is not damaged.

Nipple piercings don’t usually cause any complications with breastfeeding. Piercings in the nipple will not affect your ability to produce milk. However, it’s advisable to remove any nipple rings or jewellery while breastfeeding because they pose a choking risk, and can hurt your baby’s mouth.

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Q. Must I remove my belly ring (and/or piercing down there) during pregnancy?

You don’t necessarily have to remove a belly ring during pregnancy. If you got the piercing before the pregnancy and it has healed then there is no medical reason to remove it. But as the tummy grows and the skin gets tighter, it might become increasingly uncomfortable and even painful. The same applies to clitoral piercings. The piercing itself will not complicate the pregnancy, but the piercing itself can start to feel uncomfortable because your genitals can become swollen and sensitive due to increased blood flow to the area around your pelvis.

Q. Will I poop while in labour, and what will happen if I do?

Unfortunately, the chance of pooping during labour is high. The muscles you use to push your baby out are the exact same ones you use to poop. This is nothing to be ashamed about and the nurse will just clean it up.

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Q. After a vaginal delivery, will sex be okay again, or will I be “loose” down there?

A woman’s body is amazing. It’s designed to adapt during pregnancy, making a normal vaginal birth possible. During the delivery process, the muscles and ligaments of your vagina and pelvic floor will soften and stretch to accommodate your baby.

Although you may feel a little loose or “floppy” down there after giving birth, there’s no real cause for concern. Your vagina is naturally elastic, so it will gradually return to its normal state – maybe not exactly as toned as it was pre-baby, but pretty close. You can do your bit to help things along by regularly doing Kegel exercises once your doctor has given you the nod.

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Q. Should I have a bikini/Hollywood wax before I give birth?

Not at all. Your midwife or gynae doesn’t care if you are groomed or not. It’s a personal choice.

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Q. Will my baby feel it when I have sex while pregnant?

No. Your baby is protected inside the amniotic sac and is surrounded by the amniotic fluid. Your partner’s penis can’t go beyond the vagina, meaning that your baby will not know what is going on. Sex during pregnancy is perfectly safe unless otherwise indicated by your doctor.

Q. My libido is quite high while pregnant. Is this normal? Can I have more sex while pregnant?

Pregnancy changes your body in many ways, one of which includes major fluctuations in your sex drive. It is perfectly normal to have a higher sex drive while pregnant – this often occurs in the second trimester. During this time your body has gotten used to the influx of hormones, which results in an increase in blood flow to your breasts, sexual organs and your external genitals. It is safe to have sex while pregnant, and if your libido is heightened, you might as well enjoy the ride.

Q. Can I still use sex toys when pregnant?

Sex toys like vibrators and dildos are safe to use while pregnant. When you think about it, they are just mechanical versions of the real thing. Just remember to keep your toys clean. Always wash your toys after use to decrease the risk of infections.

Q. I’m worried about everyone seeing my vajayjay in the delivery room… how do I feel less awkward about this?

It’s normal to worry about what will be seen in the delivery room. Remember that the doctors and nurses look at vaginas every day. You won’t feel like you are on display during the delivery process – you will be so distracted by what is going on that your exposed vajayjay will be the last thing on your mind.

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Q. Is it true that you need to hold your perineum when you go to the toilet after giving birth?

Not as a rule, no. After you give birth, your perineum (the area between your vaginal opening and your anus) can feel sore and tender for a couple of weeks. This is especially true if you had stitches. Even without stitches, your perineum may be swollen and sore. A lot of women fear that bowel movements after delivery will be painful. While you bear down to have a bowel movement, push up against your perineum in front of the anus with the toilet paper. This will support the area that hurts, as well as any stitches.

Q. How soon after I’ve given birth can I start having sex again?

Regardless of the type of delivery, your body will need some time to heal. As a rule, doctors advise abstaining from sex for four to six weeks. It can take up to six weeks for the uterus to return to its normal size, for the cervix to close, for bruising to settle and for any perineal tears or episiotomies to heal. However, everyone is different, and everyone has different childbirth experiences. Listen to your body. The first sexual encounter after delivery might be uncomfortable owing to vaginal dryness caused by hormonal changes. Take it slow, use lubricant and if the discomfort persists, you should talk to your doctor.

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