Don’t post photos of your children online, ever says expert

by Laurie Pieters-James
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Don’t post photos of your children online, ever says expert
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As proud parents, it’s tempting to share every special moment of our children’s lives online, but experts are sounding the alarm about the risks. Posting photos of your children on social media or other platforms can expose them to privacy breaches, identity theft, and even dangerous individuals. The digital footprint we create for our kids today could have lasting effects on their safety and security. Understanding these dangers will help you make informed decisions to protect your child’s privacy in a connected world. Written by Laurie Pieters-James.

Laurie Pieters-James says parents think ‘it won’t happen to them’ or photos of fully clothed children aren’t a problem and hopes to change even one family’s online behaviour as she pleads for cyber crimes and online trafficking to be taken seriously.

There is no person using the internet that is safe says forensic criminologist and human trafficker hunter Laurie Pieters-James. Laurie Pieters-James

She hunts syndicates and trains the Hawks and other law enforcement groups to assist them with tracking human trafficking rings and cyber criminals.

In a one-on-one interview with the Northcliff Melville Times, it was revealed that she was involved in what is suspected to have been a hit on her life because of the nature of her work.

“Trafficking syndicates are worth billions. The international airline industry is worth about $30 billion. The trafficking industry is worth $157 billion. So, it’s very big business.”

“Nobody wants to understand the extent to which they or their children are a target.”

Speaking at the Fairland CPF meeting recently, she said, “Anyone who lets their children use the internet unsupervised are playing with their lives.”

She says unchecked use of a smartphone in the hands of a child is more dangerous than giving them a loaded gun. “At least with a gun if they have an accident they can die quickly. We think of paedophiles as old men sitting in their homes trawling the internet, it doesn’t work like that anymore.”

“We put our whole lives online intentionally through ego. Photos with car registrations, pictures of what school your children go to, photos of your home and so on are all clues. Those are the obvious ones but there are always more that slick syndicates gather. People would be shocked if they knew how much of a footprint they expose online.”

She describes loading photographs of children onto social media as ‘beyond dangerous’.

“People think if it is not a sexy picture of their child, but one fully clothed at their birthday party, that they are safe.”

“If that child appeals to a paedophile, they are in danger. Global network syndicates will share the information and use online photos and other shared data to find them.”

“Your ego as a parent that wants to show off achievements or milestones should never trump the safety of the same children they are boasting about.”

And it doesn’t need to be, and mostly is not a physical abduction says Pieters-James.

An international paedophilic syndicate was exposed with 65 000 members, of which nearly 400 were from South Africa she says.

“These paedophiles often befriend them in some way and after a while get the child to send them an innocent photograph. This goes on for a while as trust is built. After a few photos have been sent the perp has leverage.”

It often begins on social media and eventually moves to WhatsApp where there is more privacy.

Pieters-James says often children who are not getting enough support and attention at home find the interest a stranger is giving them as a boost and as a positive interaction.

“Eventually say the girl might send a photo of her breasts. Before she knows it the perpetrator has an entire collection of pictures. From innocent photos follow progressively more and more sexualised photos until the child is eventually sending pornographic images to avoid being ‘caught out or exposed’ to friends and family.”

She says it takes 15 seconds for a photo loaded onto social media to be shared in online paedophilic groups and sites.

“The photos can never be deleted.”

“This is an example of when someone is recruited online and trafficked in the real world.”

Today’s youth think of their phones as an extension of their bodies she says. “Many will do what the paedophile wants rather than risk their phones being taken away if they own up to their parents about what is unfolding.”

This is why the threat of confiscating a phone must never be used.

“If a child needs to look up information or to call for help’, they need their phones, please, please don’t take their phones away.”

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What is human trafficking

What is human trafficking?

  • There are many forms of trafficking: human, organ, labour, sex and more.
  • It is when people in positions of power exploit others
  • There does not have to be movement or kidnapping to be trafficked
  • People can be exploited in their own homes
  • Victims are recruited in the real world and online
  • Victims are exploited in the real world and online

This is also where the ‘dark web’ comes into play – an underground web of unchecked terror. “I will die for this cause because there are people, and children in particular that are in danger.”

In 73% of cases of trafficking, there is a family member involved

Different kinds of online scams

  • Cyber crime: Hacking, phishing, financial scams, sex trafficking, online bullying, commercial exploitation and online fraud
  • Never make online payments unless you have triple-checked where your money is going
  • Always phone the bank if someone has asked for your PIN, to change a password or other information
  • Never log into public networks unless you are comfortable with your phone’s photos and data being made public
  • Never give blanket permissions to online Apps on your phone or computer

“There’s very little that is being done by law enforcement because they’re completely overwhelmed,” says Pieters-James.

Safety measures for children

  • Monitor closely what your children are doing online
  • Only give phones with limited Apps and connectivity ability
  • Put computers in open spaces in the house
  • Never let your child take a smartphone to bed with them

Original article found here.

BabyYumYum FAQ’s

Why is it not safe to post photos of my children online?
Posting photos of children online can expose them to privacy risks, identity theft, or even unwanted attention from strangers. Once shared, the images can be used or distributed without your control.

Can I control who sees the photos of my children online?
While privacy settings can limit who sees the content, nothing is fully secure online. Photos can be easily copied, shared, or screenshot by others, making it difficult to maintain complete control over them.

What are the long-term consequences of posting my children’s photos online?
Children’s digital footprints start with what is shared about them. These images and information could affect their future, including their privacy, reputation, or even opportunities like schooling or employment.

Is it illegal to post photos of children online?
It’s not illegal for parents to post photos of their own children online, but other individuals or entities may need consent. However, different countries have privacy laws that may affect what happens with those images.

Can sharing my children’s photos put them at risk of online predators?
Yes, oversharing can potentially expose children to online predators who may misuse or manipulate the images for harmful purposes. It’s best to limit sharing personal photos in public forums.

Are there safer alternatives to sharing photos of my children online?
Yes, consider sharing photos privately through secure platforms, messaging apps, or password-protected family websites where access is controlled.

How can I protect my children’s digital privacy?
Refrain from sharing personal details like their full name, birthdate, location, or school in photos or posts. Regularly review privacy settings on social media and educate family members about responsible sharing.

What is “sharenting,” and why is it a concern?
“Sharenting” refers to parents oversharing about their children on social media. It’s a concern because it can compromise a child’s privacy and create an extensive digital footprint before they can consent.

Will my child’s photos stay online forever?
Once photos are posted online, they can remain accessible indefinitely, even if you delete them. Archived copies or reposted versions may exist, making it hard to remove all traces.

What can I do if my child’s photo has been shared without my consent?
If your child’s photo has been shared without permission, you can request the person or platform to remove it. Some social media platforms also have reporting features for unauthorised use of images.

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