Why Pregnant Women Feel Forced to Look Perfect on Social Media

by The Conversation
Why Pregnant Women Feel Forced to Look Perfect on Social Media

There is a quiet but powerful trend unfolding online and many expectant mothers feel it long before anyone says it aloud. As social media is putting pregnant women under pressure to look perfect, the messy, emotional and very human parts of pregnancy are being pushed out of view. It becomes harder for women to admit when they are exhausted, overwhelmed or simply not glowing. When the internet only celebrates perfection, the reality of pregnancy can start to feel like something women need to hide instead of honour.

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There is no doubt that social media and its instant availability has changed the way we engage with the outside world. As the popularity and influence of sites such as Facebook continue to grow, few can argue that these are not among the most important tools for social contact in the modern world.

At any time of life, whatever we may experience, social media has become a platform to reach out to others going through the same thing. Pregnant women, for example, can reach out to other expectant mothers who are due to give birth around the same time as them, and track each others’ progress, problems and proud moments, providing support along the way.

However, there is a downside to this constant, carefully selected communication. High levels of Facebook use have been linked to increased depression, anxiety and poor life satisfaction, with those who use it a lot finding their mood decreases afterwards.

It’s very easy to see why this is the case: Facebook isn’t reality; it’s made up of usually carefully constructed highlights of people’s lives. Posts are all about the latest parties, purchases and happy relationships, and less about sitting home alone on a Friday night in your pyjamas. Even if deep down we realise Facebook is a false presentation of the world our peers live in, the risk of making negative self-comparisons is still high.

One of the biggest negative impacts of Facebook is the increase in body image dissatisfaction, as users compare themselves to the literally billions of perfect photos of celebrities and our peers available to us with just a few clicks. Some might argue that these photos have always been available through traditional media, but social sharing sites make them more accessible. More than ten million photographs are uploaded onto Facebook worldwide every hour, offering an immediate availability of new images that far surpasses that found in any magazine.

The issue of course is that many of these photos aren’t real. We are viewing images that are carefully selected, posed, filtered or altered in some way: Photoshop is no longer confined to magazines or professional websites, with a simple app, a person can rapidly change their image to become their own ideal.

Poor body image is not a good thing at the best of times: it can lead to low self-esteem, damage relationships and increase the risk of poor health. Though often assumed to be a problem for mostly teens and young women, body image dissatisfaction can be a problem for women of all ages – even during pregnancy.

Pregnancy is, of course, a time of big changes to the body. Add to the growing stomach, sickness, heartburn and sore breasts and it’s no surprise that it is an uncomfortable time in a woman’s life. But while pregnancy was once viewed as an excuse to “eat for two” – which, incidentally, wasn’t a good thing either – growing numbers of pregnant women are now trying to limit the amount of weight they gain in a bid to get the “perfect” body.

In a recent study exploring pregnancy body image, we found that more than half of the 269 women we surveyed had concerns about what their pregnant body looked like, how much weight they had gained and what their body would look like afterwards. Only a third “loved” how they looked or felt confident about their pregnant body; the rest worried about their changing shape and felt they were gaining too much weight.

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Potentially this trend could be caused by lots of factors, but our frequent and carefully constructed use of social media isn’t helping. Our research found that the more pregnant women used Facebook, the greater their body dissatisfaction, and the more likely they were to try and limit how much weight they gained. Directly, two thirds of women who used Facebook stated that they compared their body negatively to other pregnant women and celebrities using it, and that seeing photos of other pregnant women increased their dissatisfaction with their body.

The frequency of this dissatisfaction and attempt to limit weight gain is of concern for both the physical health and well-being of mum and baby during pregnancy. Gaining too little weight increases the risk of low birth weight, premature birth and even miscarriage, and is associated with a drop in self-esteem in itself. Research has also shown that when mums have poor body image during pregnancy they are also less likely to breastfeed which can further increase the risk of health issues for mum and baby.

Deep down most people know that we only put our best photos on Facebook and many use apps to alter their photos, but this isn’t always clear. Pregnant women are increasingly feeling the pressure to conform to a slender ideal at a time when weight gain and body changes are not only normal but part of helping their baby grow and develop.

Women’s changing shape during pregnancy and what this represents is something to be treasured. Forget “eating for two”; the world needs to realise that women are living for two and that the true beauty in this lies in the stretch marks, wobbly bits and swollen ankles – whether that looks “good” on social media or not.

By Amy Brown, Associate Professor of Child Public Health, Swansea University

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

Why Pregnant Women Feel Forced to Look Perfect on Social Media 

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Why do pregnant women feel pressured to look perfect on social media?

Many pregnant women feel pressured because social media often promotes polished, idealised images of pregnancy. Constant exposure to curated content can make them feel they need to match those unrealistic standards to feel accepted or validated.

How does social media affect a woman’s confidence during pregnancy?

Seeing edited or staged pregnancy content can lead to comparison. This can lower confidence, especially when their own experience looks or feels different from the “picture-perfect” versions they see online.

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Why do influencers make pregnancy look effortless?

Influencers often share only the highlights. Their posts may be edited, staged or professionally shot, which creates an impression of an easy, glamorous journey that doesn’t reflect everyday reality.

Does social media create unrealistic expectations about pregnancy?

Yes. Filters, professional photography and selective sharing can paint an unrealistic picture. Many women feel they should “glow,” look polished or stay slim, even when real bodies and emotions naturally change.

Why do some pregnant women hide their struggles online?

Many feel embarrassed to share the difficult parts of pregnancy because they fear judgement, guilt or criticism. Social media often rewards positivity and aesthetics, making honest posts feel risky.

Can the pressure to look perfect impact mental health during pregnancy?

It can for some women. The pressure to maintain a certain appearance or lifestyle online may contribute to anxiety, stress or feelings of inadequacy, especially when paired with physical and hormonal changes.

Why do pregnant women feel the need to post regular bump photos?

Social platforms encourage constant updates. Many women feel they must document every milestone or prove they’re enjoying pregnancy, even when they need privacy or rest.

Does comparison on social media affect how women experience pregnancy?

Yes. Comparing their body, symptoms or lifestyle to polished online content can make women feel like they’re doing pregnancy “wrong,” even though every pregnancy is completely unique.

Why do some women feel pressure to bounce back quickly after birth?

The same expectations that idealise pregnancy often carry into the postpartum period. When social media celebrates rapid “snap back” bodies, it can make women feel rushed to look a certain way rather than recover at their own pace.

How can social media make pregnancy feel competitive?

Likes, comments and follower engagement can turn milestones into a performance. Some women may feel they need to keep up with others’ perfectly styled announcements, maternity shoots or nursery reveals.

Why do heavily edited maternity photos influence how women see themselves?

Edited images can erase normal features such as stretch marks, swelling or fatigue. When these edits become the standard, it can distort how women view their own very normal pregnancy changes.

What can help reduce the pressure to look perfect online during pregnancy?

Limiting comparison, following more honest creators, taking breaks from scrolling and sharing only what feels comfortable can help women regain control of their pregnancy experience.

Medical Disclaimer: The information in this FAQ is for general educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always speak to a qualified healthcare provider with any questions regarding your health or pregnancy.

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