For many families, the workday does not end when everyone gets home. Evenings are already packed with meals, chores and exhaustion before schoolwork enters the picture. The hidden cost of homework on working families is rarely talked about, yet it shapes routines, stress levels and parent–child relationships every day. When expectations pile up after hours, families are left trying to meet academic demands while protecting their wellbeing.
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There has been a fascinating shift in the way education is being viewed and applied worldwide. Spearheaded largely by the studies and findings coming out of Nordic countries like Finland, homework is one of the old methods that is falling by the wayside.
But like all new systems, the new trend is taking a while to reach every corner of the globe. So, for the foreseeable future, South African children will be expected to do homework after school hours.
The why
It can be frustrating for parents who are familiar with these new trends, but it’s important to remember that pedagogical changes take time. Lobbying the school board and educators can go a long way to change the status quo; in the interim, children still risk getting into trouble if they don’t complete their homework. Some kids simply need more attention in certain subjects.
In a class of even 20 kids, teachers do not have the time to spend an extra half hour with an individual child, who may be struggling with certain concepts. This issue is even more important in the foundation phase of learning (Grade R – Grade 3), when children learn the basics of reading and arithmetic. If we want to give our kids the best possible chance at acing their school years, we need to step up at a time when they need it most.
“If you loved mathematics and science in school, you should be the one helping your child with these subjects … Your passion for the subject can make all the difference whether or not your child ends up loving these subjects themselves.”
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The when
For working parents, the “when” can be a hairy subject. Although many aftercare centres, au pairs and housekeepers may be requested to supervise homework, not everything gets done. Most kids are not self-starters when it comes to anything tedious, let alone more schoolwork when they’re finally tasting freedom. So, when is the best time?
Although long-term projects and speeches can be shifted onto weekends, true success comes from a daily routine at approximately the same time.
Whether kids have a lot of homework or none at all, insist that they sit with an open book and complete “homework time” while you’re cooking dinner, just before bedtime or as soon as they get back from home – depending on your and your child’s energy at any given time.
Tip: After bath-time is a good rule of thumb, as it guarantees that your child is warm and relaxed.
The who
It would be easy to pin this on whoever’s available, but that’s not really fair, is it? It’s like basing the criteria of your child’s homework partner on whoever happens to be near them when they open a book. We suggest the following three steps:
- Play to your strengths
If you loved mathematics and science in school, you should be the one helping your child with these subjects, and not just because you’ll have a better idea of what’s going on. Your passion for the subject can make all the difference whether or not your child ends up loving these subjects themselves. When they see their parents enjoying and solving complex equations, it shows them that it can be done and it can be pleasant. - Don’t take over
For Grade 1, it will be extremely frustrating watching your pride and joy struggle to read basic words. But resist the urge to keep reading it for them. Your job is to help them follow the instructions. When you begin to take over and do the job for them, they’re not really learning anything at all (and their teachers will almost certainly spot your handiwork if you keep giving answers). - The thing about maintenance
Doing regular homework with your child may not make a massive difference to their overall academic performance. Some kids just aren’t that focused on these things. But you’ll never know what an impact not sitting with them might have had, and it shows them that you’re willing to spend time with them.
Whether you or your partner decided to take turns or divide up the subjects; whether you choose to do it the moment they get home, or just before bed-time; whether you spend hours on it per day or limit the time to something reasonable – the long-term mental and emotional rewards of spending time with your children cannot be quantified and homework is a strangely good excuse to do it daily. It is worth it!
BabyYumYum FAQ’s: The Hidden Cost of Homework on Working Families
Why can homework be challenging for working families?
Homework often competes with limited evening time that working families have together. After long workdays, parents and children may already feel tired, making homework an added source of stress rather than a learning opportunity.
How does homework affect family time?
Homework can reduce time for family connection, relaxation and shared routines. Even short assignments can stretch into long evenings when children are exhausted or struggling to focus.
Why does homework increase stress for working parents?
Working parents may feel pressure to support homework while managing jobs, household responsibilities and childcare. This can lead to guilt, frustration and feelings of never doing enough.
Does homework affect children’s emotional wellbeing?
For some children, homework can cause anxiety, frustration or low confidence, especially if they struggle academically or feel pressured to perform after a full school day.
Why does homework often become a source of conflict at home?
Tired children and stressed parents can turn homework into a battleground. Power struggles may arise when children resist tasks and parents feel responsible for results.
Are all families affected by homework in the same way?
No. Families with flexible work schedules, additional support or access to tutors may experience fewer challenges. Working families with limited time or resources often feel the strain more strongly.
Can homework widen inequality between families?
Yes. Homework can unintentionally highlight differences in time, support and resources. Not all families are equally able to supervise or assist with assignments.
Why do working families feel pressure to prioritise homework over rest?
Many parents worry that skipping or shortening homework will disadvantage their child academically. This fear can push families to prioritise homework even when children are overtired.
How does homework impact children’s sleep?
Late-night homework can delay bedtime, leading to reduced sleep. Poor sleep affects mood, concentration and learning the following day.
Is homework always effective for learning?
Homework can support learning for some children, but its effectiveness varies by age, amount and type of task. Too much homework can reduce motivation and enjoyment of learning.
What can help reduce the burden of homework on working families?
Clear communication with schools, realistic expectations, flexible homework policies and a focus on quality over quantity can help ease pressure on families.
When should parents raise concerns about homework with schools?
If homework consistently causes distress, exhaustion or family conflict, it is reasonable for parents to speak with teachers or school leadership to seek support or adjustments.
Medical Disclaimer: This information is provided for general educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, psychological or educational advice. If homework-related stress is affecting a child’s mental health, sleep or wellbeing, consult a qualified healthcare provider, psychologist or educational professional for personalised guidance.
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